Tuesday, March 29, 2011
You must be this tall......
Can I vent for a moment? Thanks so much! You see, recently "they" decided that it is best to keep a child facing back in a car seat until that child reaches the age of two. That said, this post is either going to make me look like an unfit and uncaring mother or it's going to hit home with other people that agree. So, let's just get to the point. I will not be waiting till two. You see, I'm sick and tired of "them" and all the things "they" tell me to do. You know why? Well, because I think that more than anything all "they" do is scare moms....especially new ones. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not Brittany and you won't see me riding shotgun with Leyton on my lap or anything BUT I feel like I have to draw the line somewhere.
Here is where I have the biggest problem with it. What the hell does it have to do with age? What I think "they" are doing is generalizing the size of children and figuring out that at 2 most kids are a certain height and weight and therefore it is safer for children to stay sitting backwards until they reach that safe size. Then there is Leyton, have you seen my son? He is the product of a man that is 6'1" and a woman that is 5'10". The dude weighs 27lbs (as of a week ago) and is over 30 inches long. I have actually seen two year olds that are smaller than Leyton. He's in the 90th percentile for everything so it's safe to say he is big. Bigger than most. I, as his mother, feel that when he turns one I will be completely fine turning him around. Honestly, I would be fine turning him now. What is going to happen on day 366 that wasn't there at 365? The answer is ABSOLUTELY nothing. He is above the requirements of any forward facing car seat when you look at their length and weight limit. So, the question I keep coming back to is WHY is this based on age?! I am firm in my belief that it should be based on size requirements. If I go to an amusement park I have to be a certain size to ride the ride...not a certain age.
I know it is "their" ultimate goal to make things safer for our kids. On the other hand, when is it too much? Where is the point where we all are just sitting at home with our child in a plastic bubble because we are afraid of exposing them to anything. I just think a lot of these rules give parents too much to worry about and be fearful of. Let me tell you, I fell on the concrete while holding my child and could have just as easily caused him brain damage or much much worse. At what point will it be recommended that I don't carry my child because the likelihood of him getting hurt goes up by 75%?
To be honest, I'm just a first time mommy that loves my child more than anything else in the world. I will do everything to keep him as safe as possible. I also know that I need to make some decisions based on what I feel is best for him. If I had listened in the beginning to all the people that said "Breast is best!" he would have died of starvation. At a certain point I just have to listen to myself and know that I as his mommy make the best decisions.